The 12 Promises of Recovery from Codependency are as follows;
I can expect an astounding change in my life by working a program of recovery from codependency. As I make an honest effort to work the Twelve Steps.
- I know a new sense of belonging. The feelings of emptiness and loneliness will disappear.
- I am no longer controlled by my fears. I overcome my fears and act with courage, integrity.
- I know a new freedom.
- I release myself from worry, guilt, and regret about my past and present. I am aware enough not to repeat it.
- I know a new love and acceptance of myself and others. I feel genuinely lovable, loving and loved.
- I learn to see myself as equal to others. My new and renewed relationships are all with equal partners.
- I am capable of developing and maintaining healthy and loving relationships. The need to control and manipulate others will disappear as I learn to trust those who are trustworthy
8. I learn that it is possible for me to mend—to become more loving, intimate, and supportive. I have the choice of communication with my family in a way which is safe for me and respectful of them.
9. I recognize that this is my life to live and accept responsibility for my own happiness.
10. I no longer need to rely solely on others to provide my sense of worth.
11. I come to believe in my own capabilities.
12. I gradually experience serenity, strength, and growth in my daily life.
Promises 1-8,10, and 12 were taken from CoDA. Promises 9 and 11 were reworked to be suitable for all people.