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Codependency Self-Assessment

This quiz is a self-reflection tool for educational purposes. It does not diagnose any condition and is not medical advice. If you’re in immediate danger or experiencing abuse, consider contacting local emergency services or a trusted support resource.

Scale 0 = Never 1 = Rarely 2 = Sometimes 3 = Often 4 = Almost always
Over the last 6–12 months, how true is each statement?
  1. I feel responsible for other people’s emotions.
  2. I have trouble saying no, even when I want to.
  3. I often put my needs last to avoid conflict.
  4. I worry a lot about being disliked or abandoned.
  5. I over-explain or try to “prove” my point to be understood.
  6. I feel guilty when I set boundaries.
  7. I try to fix, manage, or rescue people close to me.
  8. I ignore red flags because I hope things will improve.
  9. I feel anxious when someone I care about is upset with me.
  10. I “earn” love through helping, doing, or being useful.
  11. I struggle to identify what I feel in the moment.
  12. I stay in relationships longer than is healthy out of loyalty or fear.
  13. I compromise my values to keep peace.
  14. I take things personally and replay conversations in my head.
  15. I feel more focused on others than on my own goals.
  16. I avoid asking for help, but I’m quick to help others.
  17. I feel uneasy when things are calm—like something must be wrong.
  18. I fear being “too much” or “not enough.”
  19. I feel responsible for keeping the relationship stable.
  20. When I’m stressed, I neglect sleep, health, or basic self-care.